How To Give a Spanking

KYOTKGUY and I teamed up to write an article for a group of people who had no idea how to give a spanking, or, really, what spanking was about. This was our final result. Anything written in green is mine, and anything written in gray is his. The official name of the article is "How To Give an OTK Spanking".

Spanking has long been an erotic activity known to build a deep and connective bond between two partners. No type of spanking builds this bond more effectively than the over-the-knee (OTK) spanking. While every couple has different desires, needs, and preferences, elements about the spanking itself remain the same.

STEP ONE

Ensure your partner shares your interest or is at least open to learning about OTK spanking. Establish "ground rules" before starting, such as what the expecations and experience level of each participant are, if you want to have a "safe word" that may be used to immediately stop action, and what you want to happen after the spanking.

STEP TWO

Take your partner by the hand and lead her to the place you want the spanking to happen. Sit on a stable platform, such as the side of a bed or an armless chair. Stand your partner in front of you. Lecturing can be an important emotional component of an OTK spanking.  Should you choose to lecture, clearly commuicate the reason for the spanking. Common reasons are discipline or pleasure. 

STEP THREE

Choose state of undress.  Spankings often begin fully clothed and progress to over panties to bare bottom and sometimes nude. Position your partner carefully.  While OTK means "over the knee," there is variety involved. It can be over one knee, leaving the spankers other leg free to help secure the legs of the spankee or it can be over both knees, which provides extra stability .  You may place your spankee length ways on a couch with the spanker in the middle or you may choose a single straight back chair that leaves your spankee dangling over your knees.

STEP FOUR

Begin striking the lower two thirds of the buttocks with either your open hand or an implement. Wrap your arm around your partner's waist, which communicates strength and stability. Maintain control of the spanking by keeping a firm grasp on your spankee. Keep yourself in emotional check.  A spanking should never be given out of anger. Watch the changes in skin tone carefully, along with your spankee's body language. Both will provide clues to help you determine when to end the spanking. 

STEP FIVE

Provide aftercare once the spanking is over. Offer physical and emotional support through hugs and cuddles. Aftercare ensures that your spankee feels cared for and is given the chance to fully calm down. 

TIPS

If the spanking is a discipline spanking, spanking to the point of tears is often a desired result.

WARNINGS

Bruising is likely during long or hard spankings.  It is important that you have a thorough understanding with your spankee of the possible results and if in doubt, a written "contract" may be in order to protect yourself legally.  

Every spankee expresses their reaction differently. Know and understand your spankee.