13 September 2009
Definition. . . . .
Today, I have but a simple thought, one that I've thought about for a couple days. . . .
Submission is not being a doormat. It's being willing to have your will overridden by one that you trust to protect at all costs, without reservation or resentment.
*simply* My will is far too powerful, and my desire for control far too strong, but both of those facets of myself are coping skills I learned as a child, necessary for survival. I hate when they get in the way of my submission, for I so badly want to give myself to him unreserved. I do not consciously hold back. . . . . but my walls have yet to crumble fully. . . . . . *softly* Submission is a journey, not a goal, and with every step I take, I learn new and powerful lessons that I wouldn't trade for anything. Some of them are painful, some come with mind-blowing growth, and others come with set-backs, but are lessons learned nonetheless.
If submission is a part of your dynamic, what does it mean to you?
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Keagen, in this day and age women are actively taught to be strong and independent.
ReplyDeleteI have watched subs struggling to let go of ingrained cultural conditioning and greatly admire those who do this.
Today a woman's submission is a greater gift then ever before and I have always valued as such.
Warm hugs,
Paul
Submission is a weird thing that is for sure. I want and have gave my submission to someone. Then there are times I want to take it back but to me once it is given it should never be taken back. I just need to bite the bullet and listen. I trust him with my whole heart and he knows best. I can be thick headed and stubborn at times. Kea I wish I could write like you. Great article once again.
ReplyDeleteAll I know is that if I had someone in my life that were willing and trusted me enough to give me that gift, I would be flattered beyond belief, and there is no way I could do anything but value it. I would find any way I could to show my appreciation for that gift, and to that person in general.
ReplyDeleteHi Keagen, I think it is a gift as well as a reciprocal arrangement, as the spanker has to show good judgement and balance. I don't think any sub/spankee is going to be happy with a capricious top who paddles on any trivial pretext. Submission as used in a popular context often means submission to someone you loathe or don't respect,almost a completely different matter. Gerald
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